Friday, February 27, 2015

It’s a Match!

I dont have a lot of personal experience with electronic social networking except for using Facebook once in a while. I agree with Neil Postman in Amusing Ourselves to Death that it is important not to let the superficial replace what is real.  The Social Network is a film about the brilliant young man that developed Facebook.  What I found interesting about the film was not how the new Facebook brought people together, but how in the end, it couldnt fill the void in Mark Zuckerbergs life.  All he cared about was the intimacy that he had lost. I think that electronic social networking can be good as long as it is not a superficial replacement for real emotional closeness.
Two different friends of mine used online dating sites.  The first wanted a man that had a certain look, a successful profession, and liked the same things she did.  She dated several of her matches. One man in particular seemed to be perfect for her.  They got along really well and their relationship was great until she got busy at work and couldnt spend as much time with him as usual.  He broke up with her.  When she asked him why, he said that he had so many other choices and matches that he didnt need to waste time if things werent going to be perfect.  He knew he had a list of women to choose from. I guess if you are looking for the superficial in a person, that is what you get.

Another friend joined an online dating site when she was in her early thirties and hadnt been able to find the right person to share her life with.  She wasnt looking for the superficial.  She was more interested in his faith, values, and opinions on life.  She found a man who lived across the country. She began communicating online with him, met him, and continued to get to know him.  They shared a real intimacy and eventually got married.  She would never have met him if she hadnt joined the site.  She was looking for a real person not some superficial ideal.  I think she used social media well and she is now very happy.

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  2. I love how you put emphasis on the fact that someone, though they may have used online dating/social networks to do so, found someone that they were compatible with and eventually married. I also love that you talk about how the superficial parts of a person play a great deal in how you go about finding love, friendships, and relationships. Overall i absolutely loved your post!

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  3. I love how you put emphasis on the fact that someone, though they may have used online dating/social networks to do so, found someone that they were compatible with and eventually married. I also love that you talk about how the superficial parts of a person play a great deal in how you go about finding love, friendships, and relationships. when one is truly invested in finding a worth while friendship or relationship they put their all into it, and don't just focus on if he/she is a ten. For one whom isn't that good with socializing in person or like that guy are way too busy, sometimes, social networking is often better, more time efficient and preferable than the latter.

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  4. Your comment is very nicely balanced. You mention how social media is perfectly fine until you try to replace it with real social contact, but even after stating your stance you continued to defend it a little. You gave us an example of a time when social media was not the best thing since sliced bread by talking about your friend’s misfortune with using it. But you also gave us an example of when it was a good thing with another one of your friends. Your comment gives the readers two sides of the same coin, when social media fails and when it succeeds. Nice job!

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